Shame is a spiteful embarrassed emotion naturally associated with an undesirable judgement of oneself, which sometimes causes feelings of misery, vulnerability, uselessness and unimportance. Guilt is a mental or a sensitive feeling of sorrow that transpires when an individual comprehends that they have conceded their own values, predominantly in areas of spirituality, morality, and ethical principles. As past experiences reintroduced […]
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Apr
Apr
Disqualification can be internal or external. For many years after sharing my ideas or visions with a few people, I’d hear something like this “They said you can’t.” I have always wondered, who are the “they”? Does “they” have a physical address? Can I visit “they” and have a heart to heart conversation of never […]
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Mar
Mar
When you are financially well off, and something happens in your life that drains your bank to nearly zero, acting like you still have a fully intact bank account is what I call living in a financial closet. Not asking for the appropriate help will physically and mentally affect your way back to the top. […]
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Mar
Mar
The abuse closet is the most secretive closet to open for the world to see. I am trying to be culturally sensitive as I open this closet. In my culture, which is West African, this is a “taboo” subject to discuss. Women who have been abused sometimes say statements like “I will never tell” or […]
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Mar
Mar
What are some things that have put you in a closet?A list of things found in my many life’s closets includes:A. Marital PretenseB. Abusive scarsC. Financial ups and downsD. Disqualification (for being different)E. DevaluationF. Unexplained failuresG. Shame and guilt (from the actions of others)H. Spiritual compromiseI. Frenemies Will opening up your closets to others bring […]